Dengan bangga kamu bilang ke rekan kerjamu, "I'm going to marry with him next year." Rekanmu terdiam sebentar. Tersenyum. Lalu bilang "congratulations." Belakangan, dengan halus, dia menyebut bahwa bahasa Inggris sebenarnya tidak memakai "marry with." Kalau kamu pernah membuat kesalahan ini — selamat datang di salah satu jebakan paling universal dalam bahasa Inggris. Ayo kita betulkan untuk selamanya.
Jawaban Singkat
Tidak ada "marry with" dalam bahasa Inggris standar. Pakai "marry someone" (tanpa preposisi), "get married to someone," atau "be married to someone." Preposisinya selalu to, tidak pernah with. Dan ingat: wedding adalah acaranya; marriage adalah hubungannya.
Yang Sebenarnya Diucapkan Orang
| Pola | Contoh | Catatan |
|---|---|---|
| marry + orang (tanpa preposisi) | "She married him in 2020." | Kata kerja transitif, objek langsung. |
| get married to + orang | "He got married to his neighbor." | Fokus pada acaranya. |
| be married to + orang | "I'm married to a chef." | Fokus pada status saat ini. |
| get married (sendiri) | "They got married last year." | Pasangan tidak disebutkan. |
| be getting married | "We're getting married in June." | Rencana masa depan, tidak lama lagi. |
| be engaged to + orang | "She's engaged to her partner." | Status sebelum menikah. |
| have a wedding | "We had a small wedding." | Acara, upacara. |
| have a marriage | "They have a strong marriage." | Hubungan, jangka panjang. |
Kesalahan Umum
- "I will marry with him." → "I will marry him." or "I'll get married to him." · Aturan: tidak ada preposisi setelah verb "marry" bertelanjang. Kalau memang harus ada, itu "to."
- "She is married with a doctor." → "She is married to a doctor." · "Married with" terdengar seperti dia membawa seorang dokter.
- "He married to her last year." → "He married her last year." or "He got married to her last year." · Verb "marry" bertelanjang tidak memakai preposisi; "to" hanya muncul dengan "get/be married."
- "How was your marriage on Saturday?" → "How was your wedding on Saturday?" · Acara hari Sabtunya adalah wedding; marriage adalah perjalanan panjang yang menyusul.
- "They are in marriage for ten years." → "They've been married for ten years." · Bahasa Inggris memakai present perfect untuk status yang sedang berlangsung.
- "I want to do a marriage with him." → "I want to marry him." · "Do a marriage" bukan bahasa Inggris; verbanya adalah "marry" atau "get married."
Mini Dialogues
Dialogue 1 — Catching up with an old friend A: I haven't seen you in forever! Are you still with Jordan? B: Married him last summer, actually. A: Wait, what? Congratulations! B: Tiny ceremony — just family. We've been together for nine years, so it felt small but right.
Dialogue 2 — Self-correction in real time A: My sister is going to marry with… B: To. A: Right — going to marry her boyfriend. B: Even better: drop the preposition completely. "Marry" doesn't need one. A: Got it. My sister is going to marry her boyfriend. B: Perfect.
Catatan Nada
Kesalahan "marry with" begitu meluas sampai-sampai sebagian besar penutur asli bahasa Inggris akan langsung paham maksudmu — tapi tetap saja itu menandaimu sebagai pembelajar. Kabar baiknya: begitu aturannya meresap (verb "marry" bertelanjang = tanpa preposisi; "get/be married" + "to"), itu akan menempel. Perhatikan baik-baik bedanya wedding (acara satu hari, dengan venue dan kue) dan marriage (hubungan yang berlangsung berpuluh-puluh tahun). "Happy wedding anniversary" pas dipakai karena anniversary memang menandai hari pernikahannya; "marriage anniversary" terasa sedikit janggal. Selain itu, "weds" muncul di headline berita ("Singer Weds Director"), tapi tidak ada yang bilang "I will wed him" dalam percakapan sehari-hari.
Latihan: Pilih Kalimat yang Alami
Memberitahu temanmu soal rencana masa depan:
- A. "I'm going to marry with my partner next spring."
- B. "I'm going to marry my partner next spring."
Menjelaskan hubungan jangka panjang:
- A. "She has been married to him for fifteen years."
- B. "She has been married with him for fifteen years."
Bertanya soal acara yang baru saja berlangsung:
- A. "How was your marriage last weekend?"
- B. "How was your wedding last weekend?"
Kunci Jawaban
- B — Verb "marry" bertelanjang tidak pernah memakai preposisi.
- A — "Married to," bukan "married with."
- B — Acara akhir pekannya adalah wedding; marriage adalah tahun-tahun yang menyusul.
Ringkasan Singkat
Tiga aturan untuk menguncinya: (1) "marry someone" — tanpa preposisi. (2) "get/be married to someone" — preposisinya selalu "to." (3) wedding = acara, marriage = hubungan. Latih tiga aturan itu, dan kesalahan paling umum bahasa Inggris soal pernikahan akan hilang dalam semalam.